Destiny is often described as this invisible force guiding us towards a future which has already been decided for us. Is it though? Are things really that black and white?
We each have our own perspectives on the subject of destiny and for me I’m not convinced that my fate was pre-determined at birth. However, neither am I convinced that destiny doesn’t exist at all. My view is that we each have hundreds, maybe even thousands or millions, of possible destinies, and it is the choices we make which determine how our lives unfold.
I talk about choice a lot in my work and you’ll find the notion scattered throughout all of my books, because it is one of the most fundamental concepts which we all need to get our heads around in order to be the very best version of ourselves that we can be. The point I make time and time again is that the only things we have any true control over in our lives are our thoughts, feelings, words and actions, and because we – and only we – are in control of our own thoughts, feelings, words and actions, we have complete control over how we choose to think, feel, speak and act.
So how does this relate to destiny? Because it is our choices which shape our destiny. Think about it. Every choice you make takes you down a different path, and each path leads you to a different destiny. So if you want to shape your destiny, it’s as ‘simple’ as making choices that align with your desires. Now, I say ‘simple’ in quotes because we all know it takes more than simply making one choice to achieve your dreams (unless you’re Captain Tony Nelson and you just found Jeannie’s bottle – yes, I just made an I Dream Of Jeannie reference, what of it?!).
But here’s the thing: your present is a direct result of every single choice you have ever made, so if you want to change something about your present or achieve something specific in the future, then it’s a case of making choices every single day which are aligned with your goals.
I’ve talked in my blog about my challenges to shift all the weight that I put on over several years during my depression, and the reality is that there is only one real way to reduce the size of my butt (and other assorted parts): make choices every single day that are aligned with my goals. There are lots of different choices that I can make (such as choosing to exercise or choosing not to eat that cupcake) but ultimately it just comes down to actually making choices. Each day’s choices have a cumulative effect; at the time of writing, I’m two months in to a healthy eating plan and 15 kilos (33 pounds) lighter than I was when I started. Choices. And because I’m taking it one day at a time, it’s just so much easier than obsessing over losing all of the weight at once. Because lots of little decisions add up to equal one big result.
So, in summary, go on and shape your own destiny by consciously making choices which align to your dreams. Every choice you make takes you down a specific path, so ensure that every choice you make is aligned with your best self. Because you can do it, and you will do it.
“Life is a matter of choices, and every choice you make makes you” – John C. Maxwell
And one final thought: if you make a choice that results in a mistake, that’s completely okay because mistakes are how we learn. Find the lesson, learn it and move on. Because sometimes the wrong choices can take us to the right places.
Until next time…
Jeremy Godwin is an Australian author, public speaker, blogger and independent publisher who specialises in mental health, self-development and personal growth, and is currently seeking treatment for a serious Eurovision addiction. His new book, No-Nonsense Advice For Living, is out now – get it on iBooks or Kindle. Follow his blog, Stuff I’ve Learned (So Far) About Life, Liberty & Leprechauns, here.