By the time you read this, I will be forty. How the hell did that happen?!
Birthdays are funny things. When you’re younger they’re a source of great anticipation, yet once you’re an adult they tend to become less and less of a big deal. I used to be one of the eager-beaver kids, so excited to grow up, as one of my aunts reminded me in the birthday card she sent me, where she wrote – dripping with irony – “remember when you couldn’t wait to turn 21 or go to work?” Quite.
Nobody could accuse me of being super-eager to rush towards my 40th, yet here we are. Don’t get me wrong, I’m not dreading the big 4-0 or indeed even that fussed by it, save for the fact that it’s one of those big milestone birthdays which denote the passing of one decade and the potential associated with a new decade, complete with the opportunity to develop a new outlook on life and to realise as-yet-unthought-of dreams. The possibilities are endless.
Milestone birthdays are, if nothing else, a wonderful opportunity to pause, reflect, reassess and realign as we move forward. As I write this, on the last day of my 30’s, I wonder what tomorrow will hold (well, ‘tomorrow’ in the more grandiose future sense; I know what tomorrow, my birthday, will look like – it’s a low-key day of a little shopping and a nice lunch in one of the large regional towns about an hour away from home).
At 39 and 364/365ths (give or take a leap day), I am certainly wiser than I was this time 10 years ago, when I stood on the precipice of my 30’s. My 30’s look nothing like what I expected at that age, and that’s a good thing. I have had a wealth of life experiences this decade and, be they good, bad or ugly, it is these events which have led me to where I am today, which is exactly where I am supposed to be. I would never have thought, 10 years ago, that I would be living in the country and doing what I’m doing in the self-development and mental wellbeing space.
Taking the time to reflect on my journey so far and to consider how fortunate I am to be here today means that I am calm and grateful as I step into this next decade. All I ask for is the opportunity to continue to grow as a human being, the chance to spend my time doing things that have purpose and meaning, and – I hope – to be able to do my part in making this world a better place, in whatever shape or form that looks like.
Oh, and I also ask for a miracle cream to keep those wrinkles at bay. I may be ok with turning 40, but I’m not ready to look 40 just yet!
Update 1 – Let’s Talk About Mental Health
Please note – my web series, Let’s Talk About Mental Health, is currently on a break while I reformat it. It will relaunch soon in an improved format and on its own YouTube channel, rather than mine. Thanks for your patience and I’ll update you when it’s ready to go live in the near future.
Update 2 – Special price on my book for a limited time only
My book, Depression? F*** Depression!, is currently on sale on Apple iBooks and Amazon Kindle. Featuring 260 pages of practical advice about understanding and dealing with mental illnesses like depression and anxiety, it’s part memoir and part self-help guide.
- Available on Apple iBooks HERE for only $0.99 (AUD/USD/CAD)/£0.49/€0.99
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- Also available to buy in print from Amazon and Book Depository
- A free abridged version is also available on iTunes