Treating yourself with a little kindness is an important step in learning to genuinely love yourself.
After a busy weekend coupled with restless sleep on Sunday night, I awoke on Monday morning feeling like crap. My body felt heavy, my head hurt and I felt so tired that I was groggy. As I sat down to my computer to begin working, I felt like my head was going to explode and I couldn’t focus on the screen. So, rather than push myself as I normally would, I decided it was time to show myself a little kindness.
I gave myself the day off.
Instead of fighting my way ineffectively through my workload, I decided to curl up on the couch for a while with a cup of soup, wrapped up in a blanket. I spent several hours entertaining myself with Netflix, then I went and had a nanna-nap in the middle of the afternoon. It was exactly what my body needed and today (Tuesday) I am full of energy and I’m getting everything finished that I need to.
So why am I sharing this story with you?
Because I want to talk about ‘random acts of self-kindness’. We often talk about (and celebrate) random acts of kindness towards others, however what about ourselves? Often we fall into the habit of pushing ourselves to our limits, or we take for granted our ability to perform at certain levels. When was the last time you did something nice for yourself? Not something that involved money (so shopping doesn’t count!); something that soothed your soul?
It’s a busy world we live in and we are fortunate to have the opportunity to be who we want and do what we please. If we push ourselves all the time though, we may end up making things harder for ourselves – I can speak from experience, since in the past I have pushed myself so hard that I ended up breaking. Self-kindness is all about celebrating your achievements, giving yourself space when you need it, thinking encouraging thoughts about yourself and your abilities, and not being too tough on yourself if you make a mistake, since it’s not the end of the world and it can actually be a great opportunity to learn.
Be kind to yourself. This isn’t about narcissism. This is about recognising that treating yourself with love and kindness will make you a happier person. Treat yourself well – you may as well get along well, since you’re going to be together for the rest of your life.